This is a chapter-by-chapter summary of a book by Lanny Bassham's With Winning in Mind (2012) series. One chapter, one article. Read this summary, buy the book. Enjoy!
First off, you have to take control over what you picture in your mind. Because whenever you picture something in your mind, you increase the likelihood of that thing happening in the future. You control the picture in your mind (and thus what’s happening in the future) by choosing what you think, talk, and write about.
At any given time, you are either picturing something positive or something negative in your mind. You are either thinking, talking, or writing about something positive or you are thinking, talking or writing about something negative. In other words, you are reinforcing certain behaviours. There are two kinds of reinforcement:
#1 Positive Reinforcement (YES!): You reinforce something you did well such as hitting a grand slam, meditating, studying, being nice to someone, or whatever. Reinforcing this positive action makes happening it again in the future more likely.
#2 Negative Reinforcement (Meh!): You reinforce something you did poorly such as missing a shot, wasting time on Facebook, getting in an argument with someone, or whatever. Reinforcing the negative actions makes happening it again in the future more likely (NOT what we’re after!).
How to Use Positive Reinforcement in Your Life (do this more often):
- Praise, applaud and celebrate yourself
- Praise, applaud and celebrate others (creates the same mental pictures)
- Talk about the positive things in your life (what went well in your life?)
- Get in the habit of catching yourself doing something right (and then praise yourself and tell yourself that “that’s like me” and that you “do this all the time”)
How to STOP using Negative Reinforcement in Your Life (stop doing this):
- Never whine, bitch or complain
- Don’t listen to other people whining, bitching or complaining
- Don’t get angry about your negative actions
- Don’t think/talk about the negative things in your life
This bottom line is: Stop focusing on the negative. Stop complaining, making excuses, bitching around, or in any other way negatively reinforcing what you don’t want in life. Instead be nice to yourself and others, focus on the positive, talk about the good things in life, and just generally try to reinforce what you want more of in life.
Have A Winning Mindset!
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