Wealth File #10:
Rich People are Excellent Receivers.
Poor People* are Poor Receivers.
Harv Eker says, “If I had to nail down the number one reason most people do not reach their full financial potential, it would be this: most people are poor ‘receivers.’” What does he mean? First, what the heck are poor receivers? A poor receiver, according to Harv, is a person that cannot receive well. So far so good. What do we receive? We receive praise, affection, money, gifts, etc. Many of us have trouble receiving such things. The author told a story from himself: “It’s funny, when I was broke and I saw a penny on the ground, I would never stoop so low as to pick up a lowly penny. Now that I’m rich, however, I pick up anything that even looks like money. Then I give it a kiss for good luck and declare out loud, ‘I am a money magnet. Thank you, thank you, thank you.’”
So obvious, T. Harv Eker has developed into a money magnet, a great receiver. Most of us though, have trouble receiving. Where does that come from? Why are we poor receivers? The author simply states that we are conditioned that way. Many (yes, including me) grew up and heard things like “That’s wrong”; “You’re not making it right”; “What did you do?” These sentences all strengthen the feeling of not being good enough. And not feeling good enough is one reason why we are poor receivers. “If you say you’re worthy, you are. If you say you’re not worthy, you are not,” reasoned Eker, “Either way you will live into your story.” No wonder we are poor receivers if we don’t feel worthy… Here some sage advice: Stop buying into that ‘worthiness’ or ‘unworthiness’ crap and start taking the actions you need to take to get rich!
The second major reason most people have a problem with receiving is that they have bought into the adage: “It’s better to give than to receive.” I don’t believe in that statement. The whole idea is pious but pitiful. I believe that giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. Eker said, “For every giver, there must be a receiver, and for every receiver, there must be a giver.” Giving and receiving are equally important – if you are not willing to receive, then you are ‘ripping off’ those who want to give to you. That’s the main difference between rich and poor people*: Rich people are willing to receive while most poor people are not. It’s not that there would not be enough for everybody, there is. Money is definitely in abundance… it only goes to whoever will take it. So, you and I must be willing to open and be receivers.
Many poor people actually believe they are better people because they are poor. Somehow they think they’re more pious or spiritual or good. Not so! Eker puts it this way, “Money will only make you more of what you already are. If you’re mean, money will afford you the opportunity to be meaner. If you’re kind, money will afford you the opportunity to be kinder… If you’re generous, more money will simply allow you to be more generous.” From now on, take everything (good) someone offers to you (use your mind wisely, of course). If someone tells you you’re looking good then say, “Thank you” instead of “What? No… I look horrible today.” It’s simple as that: Just say “Thank you” and receive your blessings. Let’s say you take time to comment me below and appreciate what I’m doing here, I will definitely say, “Thank you.”
[*I need to note that the Harv Eker makes it clear in this book that he does not mean to degrade poor people. He does not think that rich people are better than poor or middle-class people. They’re just richer.]
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